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    The Healed Being program is the exact roadmap you need to help you stop harmful behaviors and start repairing love and connection.

    The Healed Being program is the exact roadmap you need to help you stop harmful behaviors and begin repairing love and connection.

    The first step can feel like taking a giant leap into humility. The journey is not easy, but it changes everything.

    I have been this person and know what you’re going through. If your words and behaviors have led to a complete breakdown of emotional trust, Healed Being is your best chance at turning things around.

    The first step can feel like taking a giant leap into humility. The journey is not easy, but it changes everything.

    I have been this person and know what you’re going through. If your words and behaviors have led to a complete breakdown of emotional trust, Healed Being is your best chance at turning things around.

    My partner and I are dating again, which is really weird… now that the actual healing is taking hold I feel it could actually stop forever!… I’m becoming the man, husband and the father I have always wanted to be and your lessons have been key in the healing process.

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    Paul Colaianni - Healed Being

    Discovering and changing my own destructive behaviors was not easy

    In fact, it was the hardest journey of my life. I didn’t have the tools! I didn’t have any guidance. I just realized one day that if I didn’t change, I’d never be able to keep a relationship.

    So I committed to changing no matter what it took. I made a lot of mistakes, but I learned from all of them. And I now feel better than ever. And I’m in the longest, best relationship of my life.

    I used to be an emotionally abusive person.

    Honestly, it sucks to admit that. It’s embarrassing. Who wants to say they were “abusive”? That word is filled with so many horrible images. Yet, I cannot deny that I was.

    My belief throughout all of my previous relationships was that if my partner would only do what I say, we’d both be happy! But that kind of toxic thinking was what got me into trouble every single time.

    After reflecting on my past relationships, including a divorce I never saw coming, I had no choice but to finally admit and accept the truth: I was the common denominator in all of them. 

    That admission was exactly what I needed to start discovering and healing all the behaviors that hurt people I care about.

    Today, I no longer feel the need to control or change people I love. I’ve also healed the emotional triggers that caused my emotionally abusive behaviors in the first place. I truly feel like an entirely different person.

    Healed Being walks you through everything you need to know about how to stop causing people you care about to distance themselves from you. If someone you love feels that you have been hurtful and controlling and wants you to change, “or else,” this is the program you need.

    The lessons give you a precise path to follow, and the online support group is there to accelerate your progress if you want to engage with others going through the same thing.

    You can have a strong, healthy, and even happy relationship, but you have to learn which behaviors are harmful and which ones are guaranteed to push people you love away from you.

    The problem is you don’t know what you don’t know.

    That’s the trap I fell into most of my life. I didn’t know I was carrying around old, unhealthy coping mechanisms that caused me to act in destructive ways. And I never learned how to deal with challenges or get my needs met in a productive way. I just assumed I knew what a healthy relationship was supposed to look like.

    After just a few lessons, you’ll discover steps you’ll want to take right away to start seeing changes almost immediately. 

    The best part?

    When you start changing, people around you will notice. You won’t have to tell them you’re working on things because they’ll figure it out just by observing how different you are.

    The reason for that is because someone you’ve hurt knows what to expect from you. They know your patterns. They know exactly what you’ll do or say and when. And especially, they know that you’re going to make them feel bad. And we definitely want that to change. 

    When you start making changes, they’ll see something different in you — something they like, something that makes them feel good. That is the first step to rebuilding trust and safety in the relationship.

    I know from personal experience that hurting people we love is a path to loneliness. But sometimes we don’t even realize how some of our behaviors are hurtful. We may even believe what we do or say to them is necessary.

    I remember believing some of my past words and actions were necessary for us to both be happy in the relationship, but I never realized how wrong I was about so many things until much later on in life. I didn’t know what I didn’t know.

    Maybe you’ve experienced this as well? Maybe you’re going through it right now.

    Emotionally abusive behaviors can often seem like “normal” relationship problems, which is why many people don’t seek guidance in stopping the behaviors. They don’t even realize they’re doing it!

    Discovering that you’ve been hurting someone you care about can make you feel pretty awful. After all, most people do not want to see the ones they love hurt. They especially don’t want to be the reason for that hurt.

    You can be the reason they feel good instead of the reason they hurt.

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    With Healed Being, you’ll get everything you need to work on the exact issues that are making the relationship unnecessarily difficult for both of you. This program is the perfect formula for eliminating the toxic components of what could be a great relationship.

    Every lesson will give you a new A-ha! moment. And the online support group will help you accelerate your progress with direct access to me (I reply to every post) and others working through the program to guide you.

    Those who have taken the program share their stories with me all the time. The changes I’ve seen in them and their relationships are phenomenal. Many of the thousands of people who have joined have even saved relationships on the verge of collapse.
     

    Give yourself a chance to change things for the better.

    My partner and I are dating again, which is really weird… now that the actual healing is taking hold I feel it could actually stop forever!… I’m becoming the man, husband and the father I have always wanted to be and your lessons have been key in the healing process.

    One of the most important steps you can take to avoid emotionally abusive behavior is to ask yourself:

    Is what I’m about to do an effort to change or control them?

    I can’t tell you how many times this question saved me from pushing the person I loved farther away. That brief pause may give you just enough time to make a different choice on how to react or respond in the moment.

    One of the most important steps you can take to avoid emotionally abusive behavior is to ask yourself:

    Is what I’m about to do an effort to change or control them?

    I can’t tell you how many times this question saved me from pushing the person I loved farther away. That brief pause may give you just enough time to make a different choice on how to react or respond in the moment.

    What Members Are Saying

    Why Healed Being Works When Others Don't

    Specific to Emotionally Abusive Behavior

    Unlike generic therapy or relationship advice, this program specifically addresses the patterns and triggers that cause emotionally abusive behavior.

    Created by Someone Who Has Been Where You Are

    I was an emotional abuser. I destroyed all of my relationships until I healed. I know exactly what you're going through and what it takes to change.

    Online Support Group to Accelerate Your Progress

    You're not alone. Get direct guidance from me and others who can empathize with the major changes you're facing right now. 

    I want to give a huge thank you to Paul and the support of this program! Little over a year ago, I made a commitment to myself to stop living as an emotional abuser. Even if I lost everything, change was still the commitment to myself… I’m sitting here to say “that’s what I used to be.” My family has claimed a new man, one they love being around and now the course of their future has changed. Come out of the darkness, step in light and do this to be a better you… Thank you!

    Why Healed Being Works When Others Don't

    Specific to Emotionally Abusive Behavior

    Unlike generic therapy or relationship advice, this program specifically addresses the patterns and triggers that cause emotionally abusive behavior.

    Created by Someone Who Has Been Where You Are

    I was an emotional abuser. I destroyed all of my relationships until I healed. I know exactly what you're going through and what it takes to change.

    Online Support Group to Accelerate Your Progress

    You're not alone. Get direct guidance from me and others who can empathize with the major changes you're facing right now. 

    I want to give a huge thank you to Paul and the support of this program! Little over a year ago, I made a commitment to myself to stop living as an emotional abuser. Even if I lost everything, change was still the commitment to myself… I’m sitting here to say “that’s what I used to be.” My family has claimed a new man, one they love being around and now the course of their future has changed. Come out of the darkness, step in light and do this to be a better you… Thank you!

    I always hear "abusers can't change!"

    If you’ve done any online research into abusive behaviors, you probably feel defeated when you read statements like that. 

    Contrary to popular belief, emotionally abusive behavior isn’t a permanent character trait for everyone who does it. Through my work with thousands of people in emotionally abusive relationships, I’ve discovered something important: most emotionally abusive people can change… if they genuinely want to.

    The key distinction I’ve observed is between two types of people who exhibit emotionally abusive behaviors:

    1. Those who care about the impact of their behavior recognize the pain they cause, even if they don’t initially understand why they act this way. These individuals can absolutely transform when given the right tools and guidance.

    2. Those who don’t care about the impact of their behavior, however, are primarily concerned with getting their way, regardless of who gets hurt. They typically refuse to acknowledge responsibility and blame others for relationship problems.

    What’s the difference that makes the difference? 

    Empathy, humility, and vulnerability. 

    Those who can access empathy for their partner’s experience will feel what it’s like to be them. And those who are willing to step into full humility, admitting they need help and don’t know everything (which is a very vulnerable place), have tremendous capacity for change.

    I’ve witnessed remarkable transformations in people who once believed they were “just wired this way” or that their partner was “too sensitive.” 

    When they commit to making the change, however, they discover that the behaviors causing other people harm were actually protective mechanisms developed long ago – old coping strategies that no longer serve them or their relationships.

    The Healed Being program specifically addresses these coping mechanisms, helping you identify your triggers and develop healthier responses. Not only that, you’ll learn why what you’ve been doing has disintegrated love and connection, and exactly what changes you may not even know you need to make. Each lesson builds on the previous one, creating a comprehensive path toward lasting change.

    If you’re reading this and wondering if you can change patterns that have damaged your relationships, I can tell you with confidence that if you care about the person you’ve hurt and you are willing to humbly accept that you may be wrong about a lot of things, then yes, you can. 

    The healing journey isn’t easy, but it’s worth every step for you and those you love.

    Stay strong.

    "If you've damaged the relationship, this course is your best chance at turning things around."

    The Healed Being program is available as a Subscription or a one-time, lifetime purchase.
    Both give you immediate access to the private online support group.

    Lifetime Option:

    Healed Being Online Complete

    Full Course / Immediate Access / Lifetime Support / Extras
    $2499
    $ 999 One payment
    • Immediate, Lifetime Access to the Full Course, including all of the life-changing lessons, Q&As, and online support group
    • Audio versions of each lesson – listen on the go
    • PDFs of each lesson – print and highlight as needed
    • Your Personal Virtual Coach – A powerful, conversational AI chatbot trained specifically in all the lessons and material to help you with every aspect of this process. It is continually updated and will even help you evaluate that email or text for toxic language before you send it.
    • The Trigger Challenge Coach – An interactive tool that presents you with endless challenges to assess and help you fine tune your reactions and responses to triggering situations.
    • The S.A.F.E. System for Anxiety: A unique and effective audio system I created with other experts in the field to help you alleviate anxiety as it starts
    • The M.E.A.N. Workbook Online: The relationship assessment and healing guide for recipients of emotionally abusive behavior (it can be helpful to understand both sides)
    • The Stop Self-Sabotage Workbook Online: If you keep getting results you don’t want, you may be sabotaging your own happiness. This workbook guides you with the exact steps to change that.
    • Healed Being Online is a one-time, lifetime purchase: No more payments - ever.
    • A $2500 value!

    Subscription Option:

    Healed Being Subscription

    Monthly Lessons / Online Support
    $ 199 Monthly
    • Life and relationship-changing lessons sent every 3 days.
    • Q&As sent in between each lesson (Powerful mini-lessons on their own)
    • Immediate access to the private online support group - I and others will help you navigate the challenges
    • Cancel anytime. It's easy - No hassle.
    • Full course is just over 7 months but your changes start on lesson 1

    Paul, your program changed my life. It started with your podcasts and then I learned about your program. You saved my marriage and we couldn’t be happier.

    Wow there are a ton of other resources in the lifetime membership too. I’m going to purchase that. Seriously can’t thank you enough— this has been the best thing for me over the last year and a half.

    Which option is right for you?

    The Healed Being Subscription sends you a new lesson every three days with Q&As in between and immediate access to the online support group. 

    The subscription gives you time to absorb and implement what you’ve learned before moving to the next lesson. Thousands of people have purchased the subscription and have been able to heal from their automatic reactions. Many have even saved relationships on the verge of collapse.

    Healed Being Online Complete gives you instant, lifetime access to everything listed above, including all the support you need in the online group for as long as you need it. Plus, no more payments!

    If it’s in your budget, this is the best option to make sure you cover all your bases. With lifetime access to the private support group, the Virtual Coach, the Trigger Coach, and the other bonus items, you’ll have all the resources as soon as you purchase. And you won’t have to wait every three days for the next lesson. 

    Whichever version of Healed Being you choose, you’re going to have all the tools you need to give yourself the best chance at healing and creating the healthiest, most nurturing environment for all your relationships.

    The Virtual Coach

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    Healed Being Online Complete not only includes lifetime access to the online support group, but also your own “Virtual Coach,” a specialized AI chatbot I personally trained in all of the Healed Being lessons and Q&As. 

    Ask it anything. It has the answer to every question I’ve ever been asked!

    Take the Virtual Coach everywhere you go, and get immediate guidance whenever you need it.

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    I’m reaching out to thank you because your AI chat feature helped me achieve a breakthrough... I yelled and cursed at my mother... This led to us not talking to each other for over a week... I got the idea to write her an apology letter, and your AI chat helped me craft it. I hand wrote it and left it on her bedside table... she read it and came to me in my bedroom in tears... She said she accepts my apology... I’m telling you all this to thank you for helping me achieve what feels like a breakthrough in vulnerability and communication with my mom because this moment was in great part thanks to your AI chat feature.

    Are you doing emotionally abusive behaviors?

    Here’s a short list of questions to help you find out if you are doing things to erode love and connection in your relationship. Answer the following questions honestly. Your current (or future) relationship depends on it.

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    Frequently Asked Questions

    That’s a good question. A lot of people struggle to understand how their behaviors can be considered “abusive.” So I developed a short set of questions to help you figure out if you might be doing emotionally abusive behaviors. 

    Your answers to these questions will help you determine if you need this program or not. 

    If you purchase the Healed Being Subscription, you’ll get a new lesson every three days. In between each lesson, you’ll get a new Q&A as well. New lessons and Q&As will continue to be sent to you for just over seven months.

    If you apply just the first few lessons, you’re going to notice big changes, and so will others. That means you could learn enough in the first couple of months to make major progress in your healing and growth – and maybe even your relationship, if you’re working on that, too. 

    The initial lessons help you discover what you’re doing wrong and give you specific steps to follow to show up as the best version of yourself. The first twenty or so lessons are the most important, as they help you create a solid foundation upon which you can build. 

    The majority of the rest of the lessons are just as important, but they are designed to build upon your foundation to make sure you don’t slip back into old patterns. There’s a ton to learn, but once you apply what you learn, you’re going to see changes. 

    Most people end up purchasing the lifetime Healed Being Online Complete, as it allows them to get all the lessons right away, and they can learn and apply what they’ve learned at their own pace.

    You can choose the option that works best for you.

    If you purchase Healed Being Online Complete, you’ll get immediate access to all 75 lessons, including existing and new Q&As as they’re released, lifetime access to the private online support and discussion groups, audio versions of the lessons, and more.

    If you choose the subscription, you can cancel anytime you’re ready to venture out on your own. This is a true “cancel anytime” program. There is a cancel link at the bottom of every email (yes, it’s that easy to cancel if you need to for any reason.)

    For more information on both options, click here.

    The subscription is designed to send you lessons at the most effective pace to give you time to apply and observe the changes, and also see how your healing affects those around you.

    The full Healed Being Online Complete course gives you all the material at once. This is for those who have the budget and are able to absorb the material and apply it at a pace that’s right for them. Plus, you’ll have lifetime access to the online support group and the Virtual Coach (the AI chatbot that is continually trained in everything I know).

    Both the Subscription and Lifetime options are effective and life-changing. Which one you choose will depend on how fast you need the lessons to work through the challenges you’re facing and if you prefer the lifetime option or the monthly payments.

    Both options will also give you access to the online support group right away, where you can connect directly with me and others in the program. Throughout your healing journey, you’ll always have a place to get your questions answered.

    This is one of the most common questions I receive. The short answer is: If you’re looking to save your relationship after doing emotionally abusive behavior, this program will give you the best chance to make that happen.

    In my experience, when you’re truly committed to changing your behavior and healing any unhealthy coping mechanisms you may have, and you’re applying all the lessons, and they still have love in their heart for you, there is a good chance the relationship can be saved.

    The long answer, however, is much more complicated. As I said, it really depends if they still have love in their heart for you. Some people are just pushed too far over the edge, and there’s no coming back for them. When someone reaches their limit and they seal their heart shut, they usually aren’t willing to try any harder or travel any farther to reconnect with you.

    That’s not always the case, of course. Some are willing to unlock the seal they’ve put on their heart and let you in again. It all depends on your particular circumstances and just how far the hurtful behavior has gone.

    Unfortunately, some people who join this program have already pushed someone they care about beyond their limit. It’s very difficult to reconcile after someone has closed their heart off completely. But again, as long as there is still love in there somewhere, there is a chance.

    Everyone has their limits. And everyone is different in how they feel about reconnecting and making the relationship work. 

    No matter what, always continue to work on yourself. Even if you know for sure you are losing the relationship today, you don’t know what’s going to happen tomorrow or next year. You may reconcile with them or not. Or you may connect with someone new and you don’t want to lose that relationship either.

    Just focus on your own healing and growth to show up as the best version of yourself.

    Signing up for the free lessons will give you a great start to your healing journey. It will also give you a good taste of the learning material and what to expect going forward.

    I get a lot of feedback from those who are taking or have already gone through the program, so if you resonate with what they’re saying, you will likely benefit from Healed Being as well.

    I encourage you to at least sign up for the free lessons. If you aren’t sure if you should continue the program after that, sign up for the subscription for one month. That will give you a good measurement of the changes in your life.

    If you don’t see the results you’re hoping to see, use the Cancel Program at the bottom of any lesson. You can stop anytime.

    If, however, you answered yes to any of these questions, you will definitely find the program valuable and I’d recommend starting the subscription or purchasing Healed Being Online Complete to get all the lessons at once.

    If you start the subscription, you can always upgrade to Healed Being Online Complete later. With either option, you’ll start to see results that will improve many aspects of your life as soon as you begin.

    Yes. It’s called Healed Being Online Complete. Full details on that here.

    No. It’s very easy. At the bottom of every email you get from me, you’ll see a Cancel Program link.

    Honestly, I hate subscriptions that are hard to cancel, so you won’t get that here. You won’t get sent to a cancellation department. You won’t get anyone begging you to stay.

    I trust that you’ll know when it’s time for you to move forward on your own.

    The Q&As are my responses to specific questions on relationships and behavior. These are valuable lessons in themselves and may address something specific you’re going through. 

    Over the years, I’ve received a lot of questions regarding abusive and hurtful behavior. For each question I receive, I turn it into a Q&A lesson for everyone to benefit from.

    I continue to get questions from both sides of emotionally abusive relationships and write up new Q&As all the time. If you purchased the full Healed Being Online course, you will have access to all current and future Q&As for life, along with lifetime access to the online support and discussion groups.

    If you are physically abusive and you want to change that about yourself, I’m so glad you are willing to take the steps to do so. I’m sure you know just how much your life and relationships will benefit because of it. 

    This is a complex topic, so I’ll do my best to address it below.

    When a person who abuses, whether emotionally or physically, wants to stop the behaviors and heal the underlying issues, three important criteria have to exist:

    1. They have to admit they have a problem (and believe it – not just say it because someone told them to)
    2. They have to want to change and heal what makes them abusive in the first place
    3. They have to step into humility and accept that they have been wrong about a lot of things (that’s usually the hardest part)

    Numbers 1 and 2 make sense. Number 3, however, can throw a lot of people off.

    For me, number 3 was about learning that relationships weren’t about controlling the other person but about letting go of control. That was so hard! It was probably the hardest step to take on my healing journey because I believed if I couldn’t control the people around me, I thought for sure that I’d either be hurt or unhappy or both.

    No matter what, I didn’t want to feel that way, so I made sure to stay in control so that my discomfort or unhappiness would never occur. That meant staying abusive.

    Controlling takes many forms. It can be covert manipulations, subtle or overt guilting, and making the other person feel they are the problem.

    It can happen by belittling and invalidating another person to keep them focused on constantly trying to fix themselves instead of admitting you need to “fix” yourself.

    And controlling can also extend into physical abuse, where you believe the way to avoid discomfort and unhappiness is by physically overpowering another person so that they must comply with what you want them to do.

    The physical abuse part is usually where the line is drawn for most people in a relationship. Emotional abuse is often hard to identify as it comes in many ways. But physical abuse is obvious, making the victim of that type of abuse have no doubt they are in a dangerous situation.

    Both types of abuse are dangerous:

    Emotional abuse can alter another person’s perceptions and beliefs, slowly chipping away at who they are so that they eventually can’t recognize themselves anymore.

    Physical abuse (which is almost always an extension of the emotional abuse already taking place) will pile on physical pain and genuine fear so that the victim feels as if they have no choice but to submit and do exactly what the abuser wants them to do or feel the immediate consequences of their non-compliance.

    And, of course, this doesn’t even address the life-threatening situation many physical abuse victims are in. One push, smack, kick, or punch could disable or kill another person, even when that wasn’t the intention of the abuser. And because of that, it is often why I and probably every other professional in this area will advise victims of physical abuse to make a plan to leave a situation like that.

    The Healed Being program addresses the origins of your emotional triggers – the upset under the behaviors. It helps you understand exactly what you’re doing that leads to abuse and gives you the tools to show up differently.

    Physical abuse stems from emotional abuse. This program focuses on emotional abuse and will, therefore, be helpful to the physical abuser as well.

    However, you will also want to contact a therapist or other professional who works in domestic violence or anger management so that you can address your physically abusive behaviors while working on the mental and emotional stuff.

    Physical abuse can also involve knee-jerk fight-or-flight reactions, causing you to become physically harmful to others. This means that even though you will find methods of regulating your emotional state through Healed Being, those knee-jerk responses that lead to physically abusive behaviors can still be waiting on the sidelines, ready to flare up at any moment. That’s why working one-on-one with a professional in conjunction with this program is recommended and will be the most beneficial to you.

    Healed Being will help you work through and identify triggers, understand patterns, and develop new ways of responding to challenging situations (coping skills). And when you’ve started healing those things, physically abusive behaviors are less likely to occur.

    I’ve had physical abusers in the program. They gained a lot from the lessons and support group, and all have stopped their physically abusive behaviors.

    I look at all abuse this way:

    It is the end result of a chain of events preceding it. You experience something that triggers you (the stimulus), you have thoughts and feelings about it (internal processing), then you react by hurting another person (abusive behavior).

    By working on why the stimulus bothers you and how to change your internal processing, you can alter your reaction. That’s the ultimate goal, at least. Your reaction could be emotional or physical, so any work you do on the stimulus and the internal processing is going to be helpful.

    Will this program work for the physical abuser?

    It will help as it addresses the origins of the abusive behaviors.

    Will it stop you from being physically abusive?

    It may, but only a professional can assess and make that determination. If you have been physically abusive, using this program in conjunction with one is advised.

    What’s the most important thing that needs to be present when trying to stop being physically abusive?

    You have to want to stop so bad that you’re willing to suffer discomfort and get results you don’t want. In other words, your healing and change become priorities over your fear of what might happen if you let go of control.

    What does that mean? It means abusers don’t want to be unhappy or uncomfortable, as I said earlier. And stopping abusive behaviors means that you have to accept that you will very likely be unhappy and uncomfortable as you go through this process.

    What you may not realize, however, is that when you stop the controlling and abusive behaviors, the unhappiness and discomfort you believe will happen will very likely never happen at all.

    The fear of what could happen is what keeps people abusive. If you weren’t afraid of what might happen if you let go of controlling another person, do you think you’d be abusive? It’s a question to reflect on.

    There’s a lot more on that topic in the program, but I wanted to give you something to think about as you make the decision to join or not. At a minimum, when you sign up for the free lessons, you’ll learn very quickly if you resonate with what I teach. If you do, then you’ll know the rest of the lessons will be valuable to you.

    No matter what, never stop pursuing healing from this.

    The Healed Being program can be taken through email lessons every three days with Q&As interspersed in between each (Healed Being Subscription) or purchased in one payment for full for access to all the lessons at once (Healed Being Online Complete). You can choose the option that works best for you. 

    If you purchase Healed Being Online, you’ll get immediate access to all the lessons, including existing and new Q&As as they’re released, lifetime access to the private online support and discussion groups, audio versions of the lessons, and more. 

    If you choose the subscription, you can cancel anytime you’re ready to venture out on your own. 

    For more details and prices, click here.

    The subscription is designed to send you lessons at the most effective pace to give you time to apply and observe the changes, and also see how your healing affects those around you. 

    Most purchase the full Healed Being Online Complete course to let them absorb the material at their own pace. But there are those who prefer the pace I set in the Subscription as well.

    Both options are effective and life-changing. Which one you choose will depend on how fast you need the lessons and how willing and ready you are to apply what you’ve learned to solve the challenges you’re facing. Both options also give you access to the online support group right away where you can connect directly with me and others in the program. You’ll always have a place to get your questions answered. 

    This is a true “cancel anytime” program. There is a Cancel Program link at the bottom of every lesson to make it easy. No hassle.

    The subscription is the best option for those who need to watch their budget. 

    In the first month, you will receive a lesson every 3 days with more lessons in the form of Q&As in between. An entire month of lessons and online support in the group, where you have direct access to me and others, equates to about the price of a single hour of therapy. 

    Healed Being is a powerful, life-changing experience. And even though it is a smaller investment in relation to therapy, I realized the program may still be out of reach for some people. That’s why I host two free podcasts dedicated to your mental health and well-being.

    My shows:

    The Overwhelmed Brain

    This podcast will help you make good decisions, become emotionally intelligent, and create great relationships. It’s all about what it takes to become the most improved version of yourself.

    Love and Abuse

    This podcast talks about emotionally abusive relationships and learning how to deal with abusive behavior from others. It is geared toward the recipient of hurtful behavior, but I have many episodes that I give the perpetrator of those behaviors helpful guidance as well. 

    Love and Abuse can be extremely valuable along your journey to healing not only because you may relate to many of the topics I talk about, but you’ll also get the perspective of the victim of emotional abuse – a valuable viewpoint that can help you empathize and understand at a greater depth. 

    Also, there are times people who take this program reach out to me and share that they are the victims of emotional abuse, and they didn’t realize it. Sometimes the victims are made to believe they are the perpetrators. It’s good to learn just where you fit in so that you know what to work on. 

    Not at this time. However, you can reach out to me in the online group. I reply to every post. Others in the program are also there to guide, support, and relate to what you’re going through, whether you need to vent, ask questions, or simply share what’s going on in your life.

    Since I reply to every single post, you’ll always have my insights, opinions, and suggestions on what you’re going through. You can even post anonymously if you want. 

    No matter what, the online group is there to help you through the challenges you’re facing. And it can be helpful to be in a place where there are people that can relate to what you’re going through.

    If you purchase Healed Being Online Complete, you’ll get lifetime access to the Virtual Coach, which is an AI version of me. I trained a conversational bot with everything I know, and I constantly update it. It can be helpful to reach out to when you have burning questions. 

    As you know, there are two options to purchase. One is the Healed Being Subscription, the other is called Healed Being Online Complete. 

    The Healed Being Subscription:

    If you prefer the lessons and Q&As sent to you at a pace that works best for most people, giving you time to absorb and apply what’s being taught, this is the right option for you.

    The Subscription gives you a couple of days in between lessons so that you can gauge your progress and observe the results.

    Those who have experienced hurtful or controlling behavior, especially for many years, also need time to process your cahnges along with doing their own healing.

    The Subscription may also work for you if you aren’t very good at self-discipline. Some people prefer getting the emails over having everything in an online course format. 

    Healed Being Online Complete

    There are many options that come with HB Online Complete. Not only will get you lifetime access to the support group and Virtual Coach, but you’ll also get all the lessons and extras right away, letting you set the pace for your healing and growth.

    HB Online Complete is for those who have the budget and want to achieve results as soon as possible.

    Absolutely. Feel free to reach out anytime. Here’s my contact form.

    About Me

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    Paul Colaianni

    Behavior and Relationship Coach
    Host of the podcasts, Love and Abuse and The Overwhelmed Brain. 

    I used to be an emotionally abusive person. And now that I've healed and finally understand what love and relationships are supposed to look like, I help others who want to stop doing harm to their relationships.

    Use the contact form below to reach out to me if you have any questions.

    Comments or questions? Send me a message.

    Healed Being and Healed Being Online Complete are not substitutes for professional medical or psychological advice. Seek the guidance of a mental health professional.