The Healed Being Program
The most effective step-by-step program to help you stop emotionally abusive behavior and give you the best chance at healing a damaged relationship
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The Healed Being program walks you through the exact steps you need to give your relationship the best chance at healing.
Don’t let the desire or urge to control and change others cause you to keep destroying love and connection. This precise roadmap will help you eradicate unhealthy behaviors and start repairing the damage.
You deserve the opportunity to heal yourself and your relationships.
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I was an emotional abuser.
Honestly, it sucks to admit that. It’s embarrassing. Who wants to say they’re an “abuser”? It’s a word filled with so many horrible images. Yet, I was. And after several failed relationships and finally a divorce, I had to admit I was hurting the people I loved. That admission was what I needed to start healing and stop the behaviors.
I no longer feel the need to control or change the people I care about. I’ve also healed from the triggers that caused my emotionally abusive behaviors in the first place. I truly feel like a different person today.
Healed Being will give you everything you need to know about how to stop being hurtful and controlling, and help you build strong, healthy, and even happy relationships. You’ll also learn how to develop healthier coping strategies so that when you face difficult situations with someone you care about, you’ll be able to respond in a more productive way.
After reading just the first few lessons, you’ll start seeing changes in yourself right away.
When you start changing, people around you will notice.
In the Healed Being lessons, you will learn the exact behaviors causing so many unnecessary challenges in your relationships, and even why you do them.
As you implement the teachings in the program, those around you will notice something is very different about you. They may even be pleasantly surprised by how much you’re changing (that’s a good thing).
This is exactly what you want to happen.
I know from personal experience that hurting people we love is a path to loneliness. But sometimes, we don’t know what we don’t know. You may not even realize how some of your behaviors are hurtful.
I remember believing some of my past words and actions were actually necessary for us to both be happy in the relationship. I never knew how wrong I was. Maybe you’ve experienced this as well (or are currently experiencing it now).
Once you understand what emotionally abusive behavior looks like and how it can often show up as “normal” relationship problems, you’ll know exactly what is causing the people you care about to distance themselves from you.
Healed Being gives you everything you need to show up as the best version of yourself – the lessons (each one with a new A-ha! moment), the online group with direct access to me and others working through the program, and a lot of powerful, often humbling life-changing moments.
Thousands of people have taken the Healed Being program, and they are now seeing real, positive changes in their lives. Many have even saved relationships on the verge of collapse.
Read what others have said about the program.As soon as you no longer feel the need to control or change other people, your whole life changes.
Take the steps toward healing to give yourself a chance to change things for the better.
If you you’re not sure if this program is right for you, start with the free lessons
Quick Tip
One of the most important steps to stop emotionally abusive behavior is to keep the focus on yourself. If you don’t, you both suffer.
If you continually focus on someone else, waiting for them to change, you typically stay in a suffering state. The need to control or change someone else is a burden to hold on to. And unless you learn the proper coping skills, that burden you feel will come out in destructive ways toward those you care about most.
No matter what, stay focused on your own progress and behaviors, not what you want to change about them. If you put your focus on someone else, waiting for them to change for you, you’ll find yourself repeating the same behaviors that got you here in the first place.
There’s a lot more to this in a future lesson, but I wanted to give you something to work on right away.
The healing journey can be difficult if you’re not sure exactly what you’re doing wrong. I’ve made sure this program covers everything you need to know.
Healed Being is available as a subscription or full course
- Pay once – lifetime access to course, updates and online groups
- All lessons available immediately
- A powerful AI Virtual Coach continually trained on the Healed Being material
- Audio and PDF versions of lessons
- Added programs for stopping anxiety and self-sabotage, and more.
- Pay monthly – Stay subscribed for continued access and more lessons
- Lessons released on a schedule
- Online group with access to all previous discussions
- Cancel when you’re ready to venture forth on your own
Both the Healed Being Subscription and Healed Being Online will give you immediate access to the private online group where you can find a ton of value and get direct support from me and others.
Yes, emotionally abusive people can change.
I spent most of my life as an emotionally abusive person, mainly toward my romantic partners. It took several failed relationships and a divorce to finally come to the conclusion that I was hurtful, manipulative, and controlling and that I needed to do something about it.
If you’ve come to a similar conclusion or think you might have some emotionally abusive tendencies and you would like to stop hurting the closest people in your life, sign up for the free lessons and start a journey that will give you the tools and resources you need right away.
Each lesson contains valuable exercises, thought-changing processes, and important questions upon which to reflect so that you can start making changes to not only feel less triggered but also create stronger, healthier relationships.
Emotional abuse is destructive to the relationship. The person receiving the hurtful behavior will eventually want to be away from the person hurting them, distancing themselves emotionally, and sometimes physically. The emotional distancing others do from you because of your behavior can make you feel even worse.
Emotional abuse can also be stressful and burdensome to the perpetrator as well. But I’ve laid out the exact steps you need to take to improve yourself and your relationships. If you’re willing to do whatever it takes to heal from being emotionally abusive, you’ll free yourself from the continuous stress of needing or wanting to control those around you.
I can honestly say that I have healed from almost all of the deeper emotional wounds that have caused me to be hurtful to those I love. I’m not saying I’m perfect. I’m definitely not. But I no longer feel the need to subject anyone to my old emotionally abusive behaviors.
My healing journey has changed my life. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. I want you to experience changes like this in yourself and your relationships as well.
My personal transformation story out of emotionally abusive behavior is here. You might even learn something life-changing in that article alone as I describe in detail some of the steps I took to heal.
If you apply everything I teach in this program, your life will change.
So many people sign up for this program wanting to save their relationship. I am positive that the Healed Being program is the best chance you have at doing that.
Unfortunately, not every relationship can be saved. If you are close to losing an important relationship, the good news is that if there’s still love in their heart, there’s a chance. And you will have all the tools you need to give yourself the best chance possible.
If you’ve already lost an important relationship, healing from old, toxic patterns of behavior will make starting a new one (if that’s your goal) an entirely new, positive experience.
This program not only helps you become the best version of yourself but also teaches you what a healthy relationship is supposed to look like.
When you start healing, you will even start noticing emotionally abusive patterns in others because you will be more cognizant of controlling and manipulative behaviors in general. This is where your personal values and boundaries are important to know, which I also cover.
Stay strong throughout this journey. You’ll need a lot of emotional resilience as you discover and reflect on the many reasons you may do hurtful behavior.
When you join, you can ask questions of me and others in the online group. You’ll also be able to see what questions other members have asked, seeing that almost everyone has very similar challenges to yours.
You don’t have to do this alone. I and others in the online group will help you through this, answering questions and sharing our experiences. We understand what you’re going through and can empathize with what you may be thinking and feeling.
I wish you much strength and healing on your journey. If you have any questions about the program, reach out.
Stay strong.
Paul
Paul Colaianni
Host of the Love and Abuse podcast
Creator of The M.E.A.N. Workbook and the Healed Being program
Behavior and Relationship Coach since 2008
Healed Being and Healed Being Online are not substitutes for professional medical or psychological advice. Seek the guidance of a mental health professional.
